I do not know about you, but I really wish we had more time in our home around the dinner table and to teach my children the “Fruits of the Spirit.” We tend to live such busy lives that we miss the opportunity to sit and connect like we used to. It seems that all I focus on is the negative. What someone has not done. Truth be told, I hate that! There have been many nights that I have cried myself to sleep after a full day arguing and feeling like I am not raising my kids right. What am I missing? Why do not they get it? One thing I am discovering is that I must make time to focus on the blessings that are in our lives among the chaos. It is the day to day activities that unfold at our home or while we are out and about that I need to seize. If I focus on the good things and praise those moments, the less I will worry about the negative.
As a Christian, there are nine “Fruits of the Spirit” that I want to make sure I teach my kids. It is hard to teach those attributes if all I am doing is focusing on the negative. I need them to see why it is so important to show these in their day to day life when I am not showing them myself.
I honestly think this will be one of our resolutions for the new year, and I have the perfect way to introduce this to my family thanks to Michelle Weber!
Michelle Weber is the mother of two adorable little girls, and she gets it! She understands the importance of focusing on our blessings. More often than not we focus on the “not so beautiful things” in our lives. It’s easy to do that as we get wrapped up in all the day to day activities that pull us in so many different directions. That is what makes it so hard to connect with our family and find time to teach those values that we so desperately want to teach.
She has come up with such a great way to help parents focus on the positive with her Family Honor Plate. A plate that you paint as a family is used as a long-term tool. How is it a tool? Simple! Written on the plate are the fruits of the spirit. As you paint the plate discuss what they are. Afterwards purposefully catch your child and spouse exhibiting these attributes. Make it a celebration by bringing out the plate.
Step #1 MOM AND DAD – BE THE EXAMPLE. BE THE ROLE-MODEL
The virtues are listed in the center of the plate for mom and dad to use as their anchor, their moral compass to guide them in how they need to show up for and to their children. This is how our children learn what character (Christ’s Character) is, what it looks like, what it feels like. Our children are watching us and learning from us.
Step #2 BE ON THE LOOKOUT
Look for the good choices and attitude your kids/spouse are making and showing throughout the day. Track it back to the virtues and character it shows.
Step #3 CELEBRATE THEIR CHARACTER
Turn dinnertime into a celebration when you catch someone making good choices and showing good character and present their meal on the FAMILY HONOR PLATE. This is when you:
Talk about the choices they made and the virtues and character that it showed (Be specific).
Talk about how they made everyone involved feel and the impact they had on people and how that is POWERFUL and BEAUTIFUL.
Another great way to connect with your family is through the Table Thyme Discussion Cards. Communication is the key to connecting, building and maintaining healthy relationships. When we are raising our children to be confident in their ability to communicate with others and get their point across, situations are less stressful and they have better outcomes.
Table Thyme Discussion Cards are a great resource to use at the dinner table. Every question is followed up with “Why?” to take everyone’s answers to a deeper more intimate level. That’s where the magic is and the real conversation starts. So now when even a simple question such as…”What is your favorite dessert?” for example, rather than someone answering “Apple Pie” and then moving on to the next person, the whole family gets to walk down memory lane because it reminds them of Grandma Smith who always made apple pies with them when they came to visit.” Her house always smelled of freshly baked pies and she gave the best hugs when we walked in the door.”
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